As the world falls down
As the world feels like it’s falling down around us it’s hard to keep remain hopeful.
Every day it feels like we are reading about a new crisis or threat to our way of living, and the lives of our friends and family.
When you work in a service or caring based role, it can become even more difficult to do your job, and share your skills and passion with people when you are deeply hurting inside.
Therapists get depression too.
I’ve struggle with depression for over 20 years now and to this day I still haven’t been able to find a long term solution. Previously while I lived in the US access to “therapy” and in some case medical intervention was much easier, although it came at a price.
Since returning to the UK it’s been a little more difficult to get assistance.
To be fair I’m not a huge fan of pharmaceutical intervention, so try to find other ways of managing my symptoms.
As a massage therapist there are days when just welcoming the first client of the day physically hurts because by our very nature we want to help our clients, make them feel well, feel whole, feel settled.
How can we do that when our own minds are so messed up?
One of the most important things to focus on for moving forward is being hopeful. Finding a reason to keeping going.
It could be something as exciting as reaching a goal, completing a task list, or closing the deal.
Most likely though, it’s as simple as getting out of bed at some point during the day.
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to struggle with the mundane?
At my worst I’ve had to create a to-do list that looks like this:
- Get up
- Go to the bathroom
- Wash your face
- Brush your teeth and hair
- Drink a glass of water
If I was able to complete each of these tasks, it was a victory, but in my deepest darkest days of depression, when I feel like chicken little and that the sky is falling down, getting to the bathroom may be as much as I can handle.
Asking for help is a must.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told to ask for help, so I know how difficult it is, and at times I’ve ignored those pleas.
But here I am asking, nae, begging that if you feel any kind of sadness, depression or despair, please PLEASE share with someone.
It doesn’t have to be a professional, although reaching out to an anonymous service like the Samaritans can be a good start.
If there is anyone in your close circle of friends or family who may understand, even the slightest hint of what you are going through, it’s important that you share your feelings with them.
They may not be equipped emotionally, or physically to help you directly, but sometimes just the act of writing or saying what’s on your mind can help you feel clarity.
An empty mind is a clear mind.
If you aren’t quite ready to share with another person just yet, please consider using a journal, blog or notepad to write down when you are feeling out of control, or feeling like the world has become too much. Get it off your chest, it may not help immediately, but sometimes, just sometimes, it can help you find a solution or the next step to getting better.
You are not alone.
Just remember that no matter where you are, no matter what you are going through there are people who love and care for you and want you to be there. They want you to succeed.
Even if you don’t think there is, know that I do.
Only we can make our worlds better, and more tolerable. Despite what’s going on around us. We can make a difference, even if it’s only in our own lives.